Dealing with Impostor Syndrome
Ooooh no, I can’t do that, I am definitely not good enough!
How many times have you thought that to yourself?
It’s something that affects us all, for some reason, there is an invisible measuring stick that dictates what a person must have behind them to do the thing that they excel at.
Now if you wanted to be a heart surgeon, I fully get that and would expect nothing less. However other vocations are less black and white with what is needed to be ‘qualified’.
Take Yoga for example, there is no official qualification one must obtain to teach. You can literally just say 'I am a yoga teacher'. However, most aspiring yogis who want to teach have undergone teacher training so they are better qualified to be responsible for the safety of others. This indecently is why it is also worth asking where your yoga teacher trained.
There are a few governing bodies that work to safeguard the reputation of yoga by implementing training's with specific curriculum's to maintain a high standard of teachers.
Conversely, there are also courses who do not affiliate with those governing bodies. They believe that a generic curriculum goes against the ethos of yoga and seek to give a more unbiased experience. You could equally do an online course and quickly achieve the same thing. Does one make you a better teacher? Well, what if you had 40 years’ experience and just topped up with a quick course?
It is possible to be innately good at something because that is who you are, and all your life's experience has an accumulated a wealth of experience directly relevant to what you want to do.
Ultimately regardless of all the training in the world, it comes so down to how you see yourself, the comparisons you make to others and this strange imaginary measuring stick.
The feeling that we can’t do something because we are not ‘legitimate enough’ to do it seems to be deep-seated. There is this fear we all have of ‘the interview’ when your 16 and go for your first job and someone on the other side of a desk scrutinises you and your worth, busily making the decision ‘is this fresh out of school’ person going to be more trouble than their worth to train.
I think we carry that fear with us when we present ourselves professionally that there will always be that person on the other side of the desk scrutinizing us and our self-worth takes a tumble as we hand over that decision making to someone else. In reality, we smashed that job when we were 16, went on to do bigger and better, maybe continued further education and now we are fully rounded adults with knowledge and experience.
So when we present ourselves to the world why do we feel small and judged? I am afraid that is our belief about how we think others perceive us.
If you’ve done the work, you love the thing and you have whichever variation of qualification you went for then who is anybody to tell you how valid that is.
Some of the best professionals in the worlds got there because they were just really good at it and believed they could. Our value comes from our ability to believe in ourselves, you will never get it from the people judging you from behind the desk, or the screen, or where ever else they are hiding. There will be those who seek to scrutinise, so we must be our own cheerleader.
You are enough to be whatever you dream, you just need to believe it is so.